Once again, the existence of queer people was ripped down to how it could provide comedic relief for queerphobic/ignorant people while they ignored the nuance and context of the situations of these queer people. Yet even amongst the people who found it funny, they still refer to Bobrisky as shim, him, it and anything but her actual pronouns. The video went viral and also became a Twitter favorite.
Perhaps a reach but this scenario doesn’t seem particularly different from when Bobrisky’s famous Tani E Bro video where she, in a very Bobrisky-fashion, made her gender and pronouns clear.
How dare we point out that a trans person being gaslighted and a journalist being unethical and an overall homophobic interview isn’t funny or shouldn’t be a joke for the amusement of mostly cis-het men? When twitter user Ceefour_ called out the journalist after he made a humorous tweet regarding his picture being turned into a viral tweet, and rightfully pointed out the not-so-latent homophobia he displayed in the video as well as the overt gaslighting, the flock of people who have been using the meme - including, if I am not mistaken the person who had made the meme go viral in this second circle and with the new frame - were not having it.
However, for many and as funny as this meme is, they don’t see realize that the joke should be on toxic masculinity and even worse, they don’t realize that the journalist in this video is in the wrong and the trans man was gaslighted and treated poorly in the full video where a pastor was even brought in. On one hand, this meme could be a great way to point out the ridiculousness of toxic masculinty and the way cis-het men tend to navigate their relationships with each other. The meme quickly gained traction and boom, a meme is reborn and was going viral so much so that the journalist himself reacted humorously which brings us to the problem with this meme. The joke here is a play on both the journalist is saying you are gay and how typically men react when a man shows them tenderness, fondness or anything outside of what is considered normal and bro-like for straight male interactions.
When you fall down unconscious and you are dying but your friend gives you mouth to mouth rather than letting you die *insert meme* While previosuly, the punchline had been ‘why are you gay’ which often spelled as why are you ge to accurately capture the journalist’s accent. The meme has made a return, with a new format. Now it was different, same content, the trans man who was gaslighted still forgotten and unethical journalist still centered. Last week, this meme came back not in the way memes normally do. I laughed, you most likely laughed, the trans man who was gaslighted was forgotten and the unethical journalist became a meme immortalized on our digital consciousness. Immortalized on the internet, to be reached for regularly enough that almost everyone knew the source material and the ‘context’ but rarely enough that it was funny whenever it was used. This paired with the facial expression of the interviewer and his distinct accent translated to a quick comic relief and as most things on the internet in 2019 evolved into a meme.
The interviewer asking the trans man ‘why are you gay?’ then asserted that the trans man was indeed gay although the trans man had denied being gay. The video - the version which resurfaced typically was less than two minutes - quickly became comic gold for many. Earlier this year, a clip featuring a Ugandan trans man being interviewed by a Ugandan journalist - who has now been identified as Simon Kaggwa Njal - from 2012 resurfaced on the internet.